We feel it’s important to break down some of the myths around female ejaculation and help set the record straight. To help you out with some of these questions, here’s everything you need to know about female ejaculation or ‘squirting’.
What is squirting?
“Squirting” is the release of fluid from the vulva near the point of orgasm. But if you look around and you’ll find many different views on what female ejaculation really is. Some say that the fluid comes from the Skene glands, which are located on the upper wall of the vagina. It’s possible that not all women have Skene glands, meaning only a certain few would be able to squirt. There’s also research to suggest that squirting could be an involuntary release of the bladder caused by orgasm. To sum it up, there isn’t a definitive scientific answer to what makes squirting happen!
Squirting is often seen as the epitome of the female orgasm. Most people think it only happens when you reach mind-blowing orgasmic heights, and it means that either you or your partner have done an incredible job in bed. But this isn’t entirely true. Porn has built this myth and it’s made squirting seem pretty unattainable, but here’s the shocker – porn isn’t telling you the whole truth!
Can all women squirt?
No, not all women can squirt and it’s important to remember that fact! You should never feel bad or inferior for not ejaculating during intercourse, whether your partner sees it as a badge of honour or not.
In truth, it’s fairly common for the average woman to produce some form of ejaculate during intercourse. This comes in the form of a small amount of milky fluid that comes before or during climax, however, it’s unlikely that this will ‘squirt’ out at any speed. In short, if you’re not squirting large amounts of fluid, there’s absolutely nothing to worry about!
Every woman’s body is different, so where some of us may find we secrete quite a lot of ejaculate during sex, others may produce nothing. There’s no right or wrong, good or bad.
How to squirt
Focusing on squirting as the main goal during sex should be avoided. There’s no science around how to squirt and focusing too intently on making it happen could lead to you losing complete focus on what you’re actually doing and ultimately making sex less enjoyable – nobody wants that!
Just try to relax and enjoy yourself. This will make a big difference when it comes to experiencing maximum pleasure in the bedroom. There are some things you can do to help and, who knows, it might even result in you squirting!
Understand your body
Masturbation is the perfect way to set some time aside to learn all about your own likes and dislikes. Explore your body; are you more likely to orgasm from clitoral or G-Spot stimulation? Do you like a bit of both? Do you prefer to add toys to the mix? All of this will help you guide your partner and feel more relaxed when it comes to sex.
Find your G-Spot
In order to experience female ejaculation, you’re going to need to make sure you (and ideally your partner) know exactly where your G-Spot is located. If you are to squirt, stimulating this area will likely play a big part in that. You should be able to find this area with your fingers, it’s located on the upper wall of the vagina and feels soft and spongy.
Relax and enjoy
We say this about every aspect of sex, and it applies here too – Sex should be fun and pleasurable, two things that require some relaxation. Don’t get wrapped up in trying to squirt. Just lie back and enjoy yourself!
Be patient
You can’t just flick a switch and make yourself squirt, it’s all about being patient and taking your time. Whether you’re on your own or with a partner, it’s important to set your expectations and take the time to become fully aroused. Try to make the most of drawn-out foreplay, involve sex toys and explore your fantasies, all of this will help you get there.
Best sex positions to make a woman squirt
Penetrative sex can be a great way to try and achieve female ejaculation, and there are certain positions that can directly stimulate the G-Spot to encourage this. You might find that you don’t squirt at all, even with some of these positions, but we’re certain you’ll have fun trying.