Sexual confidence and body positivity is a difficult thing to measure. One day we might feel like a goddess and other days not so much. One thing we know for certain is that it must come from within – no amount of compliments from partners can do this for us. Nor can being a certain weight, age, or body shape, magically make you feel confident. True confidence is when you don’t need approval from others, and sexual confidence is just the same.
What is Body Image?
Body image is how you see your body and how your opinion of your body can make you feel or behave. For those with a negative body image, they may perceive themselves to be overweight or ugly when it’s clear to other people that they are quite the opposite. A negative body image can turn into body dysmorphia – a serious condition requiring treatment with medication or therapy. Body dysmorphia can result in eating disorders or self-harm, so it’s vital to address it if you think you may be heading down this path. Positive body image comes from within, it doesn’t matter the size or shape of the person, they are happy and content with their body and focus on the positive aspects of themselves – something we could all learn to do a lot more often!
Body Image and Social Media
With the rise in social media, the overuse of photo filters, and seeing celebrities and peers living their best lives and looking pristine 100% of the time, it’s no wonder so many individuals have body image issues.
It’s very important to remember that what you see on social media is a filtered version of people’s lives. Those who rely on keeping up a certain image for their work are unlikely to show the world the real side of themselves. The side that gets period bloating or ate far too much pizza. The side that had a breakout of spots or can’t shift stubborn cellulite. Seeing other people looking perfect 24/7 could give you a negative body image, but don’t let it. What you see on social media isn’t real. The irony is that many influencers and celebs share body positivity quotes alongside filtered images of themselves, not realising the damage this does.
For ten years, the body positivity movement has been a great step in showing a range of shapes, sizes, skin colours and body types, with brands and television shows opting to be more inclusive. But we still have a way to go, and we hope our affirmations below will inspire you to think kinder about yourself and your amazing body.
Body Positivity Quotes
We gathered some of our favourite body image quotes and affirmations – things to tell ourselves to help on the way to feeling more confident, both sexually and in your day-to-day life. By repeating them to yourself – out loud preferably – you should start to believe them more and more…
Affirmations for Sexual Confidence
I am my own best friend
The way we talk to our best friends is how we should talk to ourselves – like we’re our own biggest fan. Would you pick her up when she’s down? Yes. Would you focus on and celebrate all her good points? Of course. Think about what she would say to you – and say it to yourself.
I deserve to be appreciated and respected in the bedroom… and everywhere else
The bedroom is where someone has chosen you, and you alone. You should feel like you’re being listened to and feel truly confident to be yourself.
My sexual preferences and fantasies are part of who I am – they deserve to be listened to
There’s nothing wrong with having sexual fantasies and wanting to try them. In the past we’ve been held back and wasted time worrying about what other people think, but we’re now living in an age when we can speak freely about what we want.. Whether you want to try roleplay or bring some exciting toys (or even another person) into the mix, go for it! If your partner even thinks about judging you for this, they don’t deserve to be your partner.
I embrace my sexuality fully and compassionately
Being sexual is part of being human and there should be no guilt around that. Remind yourself that this is who you are and be proud of it.Why not treat yourself to some sexy lingerie to make you feel like the goddess you are!
My body is a product of every experience in my life, it is me, and it is beautiful
The shape, the scars, the beauty of our bodies are all part of our story, and it’s truly unique. Your body has carried your through every difficult and glorious situation in your life and deserves to be appreciated for how it’s healed and fought back every single time.Give that amazing body some TLC and ask your other half to give you a massage using sensual massage oils – you never know where it could lead.
I have the power to make my sex life everything I want it to be
There’s only one thing standing in the way your ideal sex life… you. If you want to change something, ask for it. If you want to learn more about your body, explore it. And, if you want to buy a new sex toy – buy it! It’s all about how high you choose to aim!
I already possess everything I need to be happy in my own skin
Other women don’t possess a secret to success or sexual confidence – they started out with the same tools you have. Use your mind and your body to get you where you want to be.
Changes don’t come overnight – make sure you think about and practice these affirmations regularly and you’ll start to see progress in how easy it is to believe these things about yourself.
What would you add to this list? Affirmations can be incredibly personal to us and speak to our own insecurities. Write your own and it becomes even more powerful!